Paul Bennett, in his book Loving Grief, writes "Seeing my grief as my love left me whole." Paul's book is an excellent and soothing source of continued wisdom about the grieving process. This is why I've listed it in the books and resources section. Especially for people who have lost a spouse, this body of work helps honor the many feelings involved, while providing the gentle nudge to move through it. He quotes Morrie and Arleah Schechtman who put it this way in Love in the Present Tense: "A commitment to personal growth produces constant losses because each time you move forward to embrace the new, you have to let go of something old. The more you are awake and present in your life, the more you will feel these losses."